Donald Trump, Sore Loser

We are a nation that is crazy for sports. We elevate sports to occupy a very important place in our nation’s zeitgeist. We are also convinced that sports are extremely important for children, and communities and families invest much time and money into children’s sporting organizations. It is said that sports promote both healthy competition […]

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Legacy Burdens

A legacy burden is a belief or an emotion bequeathed to us by our family, ethnicity, or culture. The U.S. is rife with legacy burdens: racism, sexism, materialism, homophobia, individualism. White Supremacy is a legacy burden. It is a (fallacious) belief system that Black people are inherently inferior to White people, and has been used […]

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White Privilege

Recently I took a walk on garbage day. I passed a house where an animal had gotten into the trash can, and yucky debris was spread over a large area. Just then the White homeowner started out of the driveway in an Audi SUV.  He was front first, and so couldn’t miss the mess. I […]

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Rubbernecking

How is it that a car crash can tie up traffic on both sides of the highway?  An accident can be completely contained on one side of the highway divider; yet traffic can come to a virtual standstill on the other side.  We call it rubbernecking – implying that we may have to work pretty […]

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Rugged Individualism

I’d like to pass along some wisdom regarding our American love affair with what we call rugged individualism.  The first two people quoted are activist clergymen, the other three are sophisticated therapists. William Sloane Coffin:  Many of us overvalue autonomy, the strength to stand alone, and the capacity to act independently.  Far too few of […]

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Narcissism Unmasked

So how is it that wearing a mask during a pandemic has become part of the so-called culture wars? An American citizen referred to God breathing life into Adam, hence a mask being something that might interfere with her breath as a violation of her religious liberty. Come again? And the woman at the mike […]

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Laundromat Lessons

Just the other day I brought a couple of winter comforters to the laundromat. I needed their extra-large washer, the one for eight bucks a load. When all the kids were around, I had an industrial sized washer that would accommodate stuff like this, but when it died awhile back, I got a normal-sized one. […]

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Covid Lemonade

I most definitely have Covid-on-the-brain. While I might not have the virus – yet – everything is muddled. With so much of my stuff cancelled, having all of this time, you’d think I’d be taking care of tasks I can’t generally get to. Alas, not so much. When everything was upended, so was I. And […]

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Gun Violence

Another shooting yesterday.  Do we even notice anymore?  Can evil be called a tragedy? Perhaps, but it’s many other things too. For awhile, I took part in gun safety protests, walking around NRA-supported businesses and politicians offices with my posters. My posters were never particularly eye-catching like so many, but they were useful to put […]

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Bias is Born

When I was a new therapist, I found myself involved in what is sometimes called a NIMBY issue.  NIMBY means “not in my back yard”, and refers to opposition to types of development or people living too close to one’s own living space.  My situation involved community resistance to state-mandated rental housing for individuals recovering […]

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