Trauma & Evil

A great many people go to great lengths to avoid the reality of evil.  This is especially true when it comes to evil deeds committed by people, rather than governments or corporate entities. In my experience, there are two exceptions to this tendency.  One is for African Americans, who cannot avoid the evil reality of […]

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Psychotherapy & Reciprocity

To be sure, psychotherapy is a relationship. Personal and relational growth and healing takes place within the context of a relationship. Apps for anxiety, PTSD and other emotional struggles can be quite helpful. But they rarely take the place of a relationship, nor does research indicate that they have the same efficacy. It is relationships, […]

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Condoms & Culture

I think we’ve established that the culture affects our relationships and our families. But does it also find its way into our bedrooms? You betcha! Just recently I was talking with a delightful young couple. Their relationship is committed, and their communication and conflict resolution skills are excellent. They are both pleased and satisfied with […]

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Lonely? Alone?

Being lonely is about not having people around us, about not having people in our orbit with whom we are close enough to just be ourselves.  We feel lonely when we don’t have enough people we can trust, trust with our deepest selves, trust to lend a hand if we need it. Loneliness is feeling […]

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