Trauma & The Body

Trauma lives below the neck. This makes it difficult for our thinking brains to access it. That is why trauma can overwhelm us, overtake us, sabotage us, and we don’t know why. That is why trauma survivors can say and do things that don’t make sense, even to them. For example, a veteran can be […]

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Lousy Therapists

I hate lousy therapist stories. Just like accountants hate lousy accountant stories. An accountant can mess with someone’s finances, perhaps their financial future. But a psychotherapist can mess with someone’s well-being, their self-confidence, and their ability to trust. I’ve heard stories of therapists who fall asleep during sessions. Or a therapist who said to a […]

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Trauma & Evil

A great many people go to great lengths to avoid the reality of evil.  This is especially true when it comes to evil deeds committed by people, rather than governments or corporate entities. In my experience, there are two exceptions to this tendency.  One is for African Americans, who cannot avoid the evil reality of […]

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Psychotherapy & Reciprocity

To be sure, psychotherapy is a relationship. Personal and relational growth and healing takes place within the context of a relationship. Apps for anxiety, PTSD and other emotional struggles can be quite helpful. But they rarely take the place of a relationship, nor does research indicate that they have the same efficacy. It is relationships, […]

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Tips on Finding a Therapist

Most psychotherapy in the U.S. is done by LCSWs (Licensed Clinical Social Workers) and Clinical Psychologists. Training is similar, although LCSWs learn more about the person in the context of family & society and community resources; and psychologists learn how to administer psychological tests. I refer to both disciplines equally, depending on clinical skill and […]

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Psychotherapy & Religion – Can They Get Along?

Psychotherapy has traditionally been solidly secular, and along the way garnered a reputation for actually being dismissive and scornful of religious belief.  Sigmund Freud considered religion to be an illusion, akin to Marx’s opinion of religion as an opiate.  Interestingly enough, Freud’s followers are still frequently called his “disciples” as often as they are called […]

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Reciprocity and Psychotherapy

To be sure, psychotherapy is a relationship. Personal and relational growth and healing takes place within the context of a relationship. Apps for anxiety, PTSD and other emotional struggles can be quite helpful. But they rarely take the place of a relationship, nor does research indicate that they have the same efficacy. It is relationships, […]

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Can Psychotherapy and Religion Get Along?

Psychotherapy has traditionally been solidly secular, and along the way garnered a reputation for actually being dismissive and scornful of religious belief.  Sigmund Freud considered religion to be an illusion, akin to Marx’s opinion of religion as an opiate.  Interestingly enough, Freud’s followers are still frequently called his “disciples” as often as they are called […]

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Not Something to Believe In

After I’ve been working successfully with someone for awhile, we sometimes decide it would be helpful to ask a family member to join us, either briefly or regularly. If said family member comes reluctantly, he might say, “I don’t believe in psychotherapy”.  Luckily, I can honestly respond, “I don’t either”.  Psychotherapy is not something to […]

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